After menopause the worst thing I could have imagined happened to me. My sex drive diminished.
Oh, they told me it would happen, but I didn’t believe them. Not ME! I have always enjoyed sex a great deal. I have always understood the usefulness of sex in solving minor problems in my marriage…helping my husband understand and embrace my point of view without diminishing his adoration for me. I prided myself in the fact that I had NEVER rejected my husband’s advances – and never wanted to. I had never had a headache or been too tired. Now, both were actually true more often than not.
When I poured my heart out to my gynecologist about my lack of interest in sex and, worse yet, my inability to orgasm, she explained that these things were to be expected in menopausal women.
“How long will it last?” I asked hopefully.
“Oh, it won’t go away,” she explained. “That’s just part of the aging process. But there are some good lubricants on the market and you can still enjoy the intimacy with your husband, if not the physical excitement.”
Intimacy, Shmitimacy! I wanted the physical excitement. Famous French author and seductress Colette didn’t even begin her renowned seduction techniques until she was nearly fifty. Mae West was 70 when she entranced a young chorus boy with her sexual wiles. I wasn’t giving it up just because I passed the menopause milestone.
My friend, Sue, had raved about the overall health benefits she had been getting from Bio-identical Hormone Replacement, prescribed and administered by a physician in the Chicago area. One of the most interesting results of balancing her estrogen and testosterone was an awakened (fully awakened) sex drive. I didn’t feel that I could invest the time or money to visit her physician. Besides, it wasn’t good health – just good sex – that I wanted.
However, I found a compounding pharmacist in our area who could test my hormone levels and compound the correct amounts of estrogen and testosterone with a doctor’s prescription. I called my doctor and asked her to humor me. She wrote the prescription and I started applying the prescribed creams daily.
The pharmacist told me it would take about three months to work (why does everything good take so much time?). After almost exactly three months I started to feel an unfamiliar feeling. No, wait, I did recognize it – I was horny. I rushed my husband to the bedroom and began to test my newly balanced hormones. Does everyone remember the moment in the movie, Young Frankenstein, when Madeleine Kahn bursts into song with, “Oh, sweet mystery of life at last I’ve found you!”?
My sex drive and my ability to reach orgasm returned to normal, or beyond, and with the lack of inhibition that comes with age, sex is better than ever. I would love to know if anyone else has tried either Bio-identical Hormone Replacement, or just testosterone replacement and how it worked. Let me know so I can share it with others – and soon we’ll teach the world to sing!
I wish my wife would spend more time on me, i’ve told her how I like it and I do everything I can to please her but she's not interested, maybe I should liberate myself from her because she is not showing me the emotional or physical needs that I desire and need for my well being!
Regards Richard
Posted by: Richard | May 31, 2006 at 01:29 AM